ADD SOME MAGIC TO YOUR SEX-LIFE
68'Your lips speak soft sweetness, your touch a cool caress I am lost in your magic, my heart beats within your chest'.
Let's face it, sex lives can become mundane especially if they have become predictable, the same thing every time, time after time. That in itself can be a major reason why couples are having less sex. Often it has simply become boring, too much fuss, so why bother?. It is never too late to spice it up, never too late to bring back some special magic.
Here are some ideas, to bring back some sizzle to your love-life, to bring back that passion that once made making love so special between you both. Don't let lack of time be your reason for preventing the two of you expressing your love to each other. Make the time, as a great sex life, can keep couples together longer,as they share their intimacy with each other.
Sexy Lingerie :
- "A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears."
Thomas Carlyle
Lingerie is guaranteed to get a great atmosphere flowing. All women dress up for work, for a night out. Why not dress up sometimes for bed?. The market for lingerie is huge. You can get some great buys out there,and with the huge online market at your fingertips shopping for lingerie is exciting. It does not matter if you aren't that perfect size 10. Most lingerie shops cater for all sizes. Sexy is 'all sizes, a woman of any shape can be a sexy goddess if her attitude is right. Remember ladies a man in love looks at you as the most gorgeous woman in the world even in those intimate moments , it is women who focus on their imperfections not the man.
Clothe yourself in sexy satins and silks, for that special treat, and I guarantee it will create a special magic. He will love it. We have to remember men are very visual creatures, they love to be able to see you, it adds to their arousal. The imperfections you tend to perceive of yourself are the last thing a man is looking at during those intimate times. So relax, see yourself as the beautiful creature you are, and flaunt it.
Fantasy Roles :
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Dressing up in fantasy costumes can be magic
All this one requires is a little imagination, you don't have to be a 'Golden Globe' nominee to do this one. Role playing is great fun, if both parties are willing to give it a try. Dress up as a nurse, an exotic belly dancer, an assertive police-woman, a shy schoolgirl, whatever you want to be. Both parties take on a new, exciting identity, you get to be anyone you choose to be for the duration of those special moments. 'Make believe' can be pure magic, it breaks you out of the norm as you take on your fantasy character."Excuse me sir I need to take your temperature."
Night-time Picnic :
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An outdoor feast of love and pleasure
Pack yourself a picnic basket, including a bottle of fine wine,two champagne glasses, add a soft rug and pack yourselves in the car. Find your own piece of heaven in a secluded spot, you often don't have to drive far from home. Making love at night beneath the stars, is a wonderful feeling. Bathed in the moon's soft glow and free from life's continual distractions, it is an experience you don't want to miss.
New Venues :
'I can remember when the air was clean and sex was dirty.
George Burns'
If your bedroom has been your only nesting ground, night after night, for what seems like centuries, it may be time to add the 'Portable Sex Factor'. A new venue can certainly spice up your love-life, it breaks the boredom of the familiarity of a predictable sex-life. Take it somewhere new, indoors or outside, doesn't matter, just do it.
Body Painting :
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Let your brush work its art across each others skin
Body painting each other is fun, creative and in a intimate couple scenario, it can very erotic. Grab yourself some non-allergenic, non-toxic paint, that can be easily washed away. Set aside a special time, for your kinky art work session, preferably at night when the moon is high. Take it in turns, to dab your brush across each other's naked skin, painting designs or clothing on your partner, an experience the two of you will never forget.
An Erotic Poem :
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Let your lover's heart spill forth with lust and desire
Write your partner an erotic poem or a raunchy note. For those not quite adept at writing poetry do not let it be an excuse not to spill thy passion upon thy perfumed paper. Slip your finished note in their pocket, or rest it on your lover's satin pillow. How long has it been that you told your partner how you feel about them? Be creative with your words, don't hold back, raunchy writing is a real turn on for a lot of people out there.
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Stock Up The Library :
'I blame my mother for my poor sex life. All she told me was 'the man goes on top and the woman underneath.' For three years my husband and I slept in bunk beds'...Joan Rivers
There is no shame in learning new tricks, tips and love making techniques from the experts. There is some really great books out there to sink your teeth into, I can guarantee you when you think you know it all, there will always be something to learn. Anything that can help you and your partner develop the most intimate loving relationship together is a god send. Reading books on love making together is fun and a great boost for your relationship, you can learn of new things together and try new things out together as you go.
Body Slide :
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Sometimes the most silly, uncomplicated, spur of the moment things turn out to be the most memorable. You won't know til you tried it.
I think this speaks quite for itself. It sounds quite bizarre I know but trust me it is amazing. The sensation is divine while being heaps of fun for you both.
Copyright © 2009 Deb Murray
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You definately should write a book on this subject....with pics of course. Yor writing is perfect! Big grins! thanks! :)
I can add some magic to your sex life. I can pull a quarter out of your ear, pull a rabbit out of a hat, and saw a woman in half (though that didn't go so well last time.) is that what you're talking about?
I was thinking I should learn how to belly dance. Since I've certainly got plenty of belly. Don't know if I'd ever let anyone see, though.
I take joy of reading this hub. The irony is both of us blondespot are maybe lovess when no time for romance lols. Maybe perhaps married couple could get much from this tip.Wink*
Mars and Venus...the universal lovers...sight and sound...universal balance...we need to be reminded of that sometimes :D
excellent hub, will be back to read more...
Blondespot, did she call you that intentionally? Rofl. I always wonder if the lingerie is worth it. You spend all that money and it just gets torn off you.
Interesting hub, I agree with Cindyvine the only trouble with the sexy lingerie is it gets torn off before you've got your moneys worth so to speak. Keep em coming!
Thats why I like you, you always have something spicy that comes out. Body painting thing and the oily body.... I,m off to the nearest knock-house now for some fantacy....
As always Deb, you have taken things up a notch. Great pix and toad would look good in that thing for his many friends. LOL I'd like to see that if for only a chuckle or two. hmmm, now you've got me thinking of a new erotic poem. You alone are a fix for my sexuality evrytime I see you. Great hub dear and great advice too. xxx
Teresa belly dancing. ROFLMAO
Very good advice! The role playing one reminds me of a boyfriend I once had who dressed up like a delivery boy with a shirt that had a monogrammed name patch that said "Joe's Delivery" or something like that, and he surprised me by knocking on my door one night with a bag of groceries to make me dinner. Of course I had to tip him first, which was lots of fun. :D
Hi BP,
Great hub. (I cheated. I only read the pictures. Am I forgiven?)
Dr Benson Yeung
Awesome! Great tips, and of course, loads of fun to read.
I'm going to try these (well, perhaps not all at once - that might get awkward) as soon as possible. Thank you much!
What can I say BP..besides this is a good avenue of advice to get from you Miss Sexy thang!! I agree about the lingerie, the Alcoholic beverages and the scenery...the bedroom can be boring. I have found that men get happy if you instigate the sex on the kitchen table, the couch or even my favorite in the shower....This is a good hub.
How about a naked game of Twister BP, do you guys have that in Australia?
Crikey blondepoet you sure know how to get a guy goin, and a naked game of twister with you and Randy cor, fair dinkum just the thought of it makes me air curl it does. Where do i get oneathem pole things I gotta get me in some practice for youse sheilas.
So.... sexy goddess, suppose you tell us which of these many tricks is your fave??? Or would that be revealing too much:-)?
Great ideas. And if none of these works, you can always get one of those blow-up dolls like CR wrote about, eh? tee hee. MM
OMG, some great tips in here blondepoet!!! night-time picnic, role-playing, body slide!!! Unbelievable :) thanks dear.
You forgot the toe thingy dear. LOL
Going to put another up soon my dear. I can't help myself it must be done and I will showcase your wonderful dandelions too. LOL
Friends of mine decided to spice up their love life by exploring as many positions as possible. They browsed forums and books for ideas. It worked well (so they both said) until she had the idea they should make love back to back.
Pondering about it he finally asked "how would they be able to make love back to back?"
She replied - "have another couple join them."
LOL
Another gorgeous inspiring hub. Thanks Blondepoet!
My favorite photo is the April one and the dude in the background seems to be patiently waiting. :)
Belly dancing is highly recommended - but I also like the sound of that board game 'monogamy' and a night time picnic .... you should definitely write a book on this subject.
Sex does sell, it gets C.C. Riter coming back for multiple hits. LOL.
I like the picnic at night, and I miss the oils. :o
Along with pole dancing you can add belly dancing. Sexxxy!!!!!!!!
Dang, makes me want to woo a chick now. Haven't done that in a couple of years....look out town, here I come!
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xoxo
lxxy
very good photo.
i like it
pls.more photo upload.......................................................
If you use a feather that is erotic. If you use the whole damn chicken that is just plain kinky! Great hub BP. You have a great mind!
The body painting is key. I've never thought of that one. Definitely gnext in my repertoire.
BP
This either reads like the 7 Commandments or the 7 Deadly Sins! LOL Of course I jest. You know your flowers and bees, I must say. I so dig the format, too! Cool and hot at the same time. Now only you can do that, in my book! :D
I agree with Chris, the fine line between erotic, risque and pure porn is in the finesse, which you have in plenty.
If this will not add magic to one's sex life, I don't know what will...Hahaha Great hub Blonde poet. :-) I had to laugh at Teresa's comment about having all the belly ROFL.
Hahahaha naughty you! Sowee Teresa...didn't mean to make fun of you but we love you much! :-) And I could learn to do belly dancing with you and laugh at our bellies. tee hee
Yep -- that swing gets a lot of wear and tear. But hey -- ya gotta stay young somehow, doncha?
Great suggestions, the body paint is a lot of fun especially the edible ones. But, be very careful where you put the green body paint. Mint is not meant for sensitive areas. I still have nightmares.
Pole dancing belly dancing, chocololate hot spots. Oh wow. As I said Pest will revert to type because of this hub!In fact I am also tempted to self indulge myself!
Blondepoet, I would like to complain about your hub. I read this when it first came out, and decided to try some of your advice. Thanks to you, not only is my sexlife still abysmal, but I am now indebt, my house is ruined, my other eye hurts and innocent creatures have been hurt.
I am a large man, so lingerie has to be custom made. Besides looking horrific in it, went I went to Omar's Tent Making, Custom Lingerie, Bistro and Grill, they charged me $17 a cubic yard. Just the man-boustier alone cost me over $100 in materials. I put it on and I looked like Santa shaved, trussed up and stuffed in an old ship's sail. Bad advice number 1.
So we decided to try the role playing game. I decided it would be fun to use the theme of Old TV Shows, and she agreed. So, I went into the bathroom, stripped down, and came out and threw on my best Archie Bunker love-machine role. Man, I was awesome, I really think I nailed it, but, alas, my Edith was not aroused at all. She laughed at me, BlondePoet. Mocked my 70's sensuality. Needless to say, my self-esteem was as flaccid as, my, uh, self-esteem was. Bad advice number 2.
So we tried your take it outside trick. Took her to the zoo, stuffed her behind some bushes near the baboon cage and tried to make monkey love to her. She screamed, and actually called security on me. Her own husband. WTF? Your advice is terrible.
So we moved to the body paint thing, figured, why not, how can you go wrong, right? Yeah, so my wife agrees that last Friday would be the night, and she comes home late because she was gonna get the supplies. You know, when she pulled up towing a paint compressor on a trailer she rented from the local US Rents, I knew it was not going to be a good night for that old self esteem again. The armful of paint cans and rollers she pulled out of the trunk pretty much finished me off.
So then, I installed a pole dancing pole, mounted to ceiling stud and floor. I took one swing too hard and ripped out a chunk of ceiling, fell backwards on the cat, who scratched the shit out of me, and the pole hit me in the eye. Need I say more? (They really should put that 300 pound maximum weight capacity thing in bigger font on those instructions imo.)
So, anyway, no offense to you, but your advice is terrible. My house has paint everywhere, the ceiling is ruined, the cat is still limping, there's oil on everything, and I can't watch 70's reruns on tv anymore. You should include at the very least suggestions like "turn out the lights and do it on a night with no moon" or something else. Maybe I'll have to write a hub like that to balance this one.
(:P)
(Great hub, btw.)
Blondepoet - Loved the hub! Of course...I really don't think I'll ever try any of those things with the ol' hubby. He prefers a more direct approach so I just try to mix up my responses to keep it new and fresh. :)
Spryte, paint him bright white, then dab black spots on him and call him Sparky. You guys can play Firehouse. NO man can resist that game.
I tried that for a while, but a lot of my patients grew uncomfortable when they came into my office and found me sitting naked on a beach towel with my legal pad and mechanical pencil in hand. Some people are just fiercely loyal to the old-school wooden pencils I guess.
The poem is brilliant perhaps deserving of a hub on it's own.
@ Shades, a good old fashioned woody beats an electronic job every time! But I guess some of the ladies may disagree!
Thanks for spotting my adolescent double-entendre, Sixty. I knew I could bank on you being with me all the way into the depths of my immaturity. LOL
I only need two good points from you to be eternally happy!
*smacks my forehead*
I totally missed that sly comment regarding mechanical pencils vs natural wood...I'm slipping.
As for treating my husband like a dog...that goes without saying. You'll have to come up with something a bit more unique.
I loved the poem! The only i found myself thinking though after reading your hub is...Why don't men try to spice things up every once in a while...its all womens doing! Ugh...oh-well.
woooo eeee!! Blondepoet, what ideas! I'm standing by with the fire hose....just to cool everyone off...really that was all, the only reason...
My wedding anniversary is May 28th...I'm just taking notes...you know, in case I need it...can uh, these be done in uh 15 min? (or less?)
He will ask me "where did you get this info?" well, maybe I can keep him so busy he won't ask....but, he might. LMAO unless of course, we just fall asleep instead. ahahahah
Hey Deb...I need to check my Skype...wanna help?
OK...hope you're getting undressed.
I love the little white negligee , who sales it? I know probably a place in Australia it is absolutely adorable and I loved the hub/:)
How to turn a man on: Show up nude & bring food. LOL! I really enjoyed your hub. All of these are excellent ideas. However, there is always the simple approach...
nice
Worth reading just for the Joan Rivers quote - great stuff!
You've almost got enough here to write a book.
The erotic poems really do work! Actually if you write out what you would like to happen, that really works as well!
Hi BP! Are you a sex therapist in real life? If not, you should be! Your tips offer something for every couple! MM
I followed MM here, since I missed this the first time thru - just after I started!!! LMAO!! BP, sigh.. you are the go-to gal for all things sex!! Man, Shame is a hoot!! Sad to say I could picture the whole mess and now i need to wash my brain out with soap!!
Love ya D!!
ps..miss chatting with ya!! one of these days!
BP has such an eclectic repetoire. She is totally the consumate woman. Her depth and soul never cease to amaze me!
Sexy lingerie & dressing up work mighty fine here in my neck of the woods, yoooowww! :-)
Sexy Hub!
Interesting article.
Hi there you sexy wench! Have missed you, BP. Good to see you back and commenting. Also not bad to rediscover this gem of a sex tips hub. *growwwwwllll meow*
i'd have to ALL great tips... especially lingerie and role play/fantasy ;)
Good stuff... Especially for married couples.. I wrote a similar hub.. "Where Did The Sex Go?" check it out
BP I have a fantasy role for you to star in!
I don't know if I ever did but I meant to inform you that I used part of one of your poems in my hub
http://hubpages.com/hub/Thai-Girls-on-Top
Thank You
My, my, I was like a kid in a candy store. Great article. Loved all the suggestions. The lingerie was very pretty. The change of venue suggestion is a great one. I'll have to check out more of your hubs.
Great Hub!!!!! Very nicely done. :) It took awhile to get to the bottom. You seem to have more comments than material on the Hub itself. lol (j/k) Thank you. :)
So true, the extra excitement in the bedroom is the best for a relationship. The suggestions in this hub are guaranteed to work, i've done just about all of them and it's so much fun.
Hey I know, have you ever tried body painting an erotic poem on your lover. And have them paint one on you too?
You could use somekind of really nicely flavored paint (jelly, chocolate, or whatever floats your caboose). And there could even be different games like licking the poems letters off one at a time, starting only with vowels, and working your way around the page (ie. their body) until you no longer can read the poem, or until someone starts speaking French or another foreign tongue.
But you would need to find someone who is a good speller, otherwise the game could really turn a dark, and uncomfortable corner...
Nothing is more of a turn off than having your partner pull out a dictionary while you are trying to speak French...
I once met a cow named Deja Moo.
And I also was once assaulted by a mime in a local downtown art gallery.
( To be fair the cow probably didn't know any one from France, but had unfortunate luck being named. But that mime had it out for me, I think he might have been paid by someone in the French Fried Mafia, I have a sordid past with American immigrants that sometimes comes back to haunt me.)
So as long as you don't dress like a mime, and there aren't any random cows about, you may indulge yourself in any way you please. LOL
Well to be fair, I used to smoke a lot of the Bob Marley excrament in the days when the mime incident happened, so interesting as my life may be at times...I would hate to have it on my headstone that he was killed by a French mime only so he could get that next inhale of a Mexican redhair.
I bet you have some stories, too. I just have a kinda strange luck that my life follows. Plus animals of unsual circumstance are a running theme in my life.
I can only assume that I was a very bad bad bad veterinarian in a past life.
Smooches BP...;-O
wow.. great hub!! fantasies, roleplay, fetish does make it spicy and long standing!!
you look mighty fine in the nurse outfit
I think I wanna do you blondepoet. Thanks for the hot honesty
You have awesome hubs
It took me so long to scroll down to the bottom of this screen I was fearing for the future of hetrosexuality!
By the way you add magic to my life as a reader - your hubs are out of this world and I should know - I'm from Mars!
I cannot agree with you more! It is absolutely essential to add surprises along the way, keeps things interesting. I was married for a long time and I tried to do things sporatically to keep things fun and spicey, but he wasn't all that interested in the surprise factor. Here's an example of, one of many, attempts I made but failed horribly at. One night my husband came home late from working on his racecar, I was laying under the Christmas tree with nothing on but a big red bow. (Im sure you can guess where it was placed..LOL) He walks in, sees me, has a look of confusion and irritation on his face and asks, "What are you doing?" Talk about making someone feel ugly, embarrassed, and ashamed. No,he didn't want to join in. Definitely a blow to my ego, with many more years to follow.
I eventually realized that it wasn't me that had issues, it was him. That's why he is now my "ex." I am happy to report that I have found someone who can't seem to get enough of me, and never criticizes me for wanting to keep things interesting. Great Hub..thank you! :D
If I could add some BP to my sex life that would be magic! :)
Hey there Dream, I bet you have some experience up your sleeve when it comes to these things. You will have to share with us one day. ;)
I love it - thank you blondepoet.
what a hot picssssss
Another good idea is to send a hot and sexy, but tasteful text. Our iphone app, A SEXY TEXT, makes it easy for you if you don't know what to say.
vavoo, it's fantastic
What an awesome hub! These things are guaranteed to make any relationship spicier and sexier.
...I've always wanted to try body paint. I should do that sometime! Thanks for reminding me of it!
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goldentoad 3 years ago
I think the lingerie with the model would spice up my sex life, I don't know if the lingerie alone would do it, my body isn't as sexy as it used to be, so it all fits kind of funny