What A Woman Wants
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Written For A Man To Understand
“Some men just don't understand that a woman's heart is like a deep ocean of secrets.”.....Tori Amos
Ultimately we will never discover the complete makeup of a man nor will man ever fully understand the female species but a man, if prepared, can learn and discover some of the mysteries of a woman's mind,her heart, and her desires.
Understanding Woman The Differences Between The Two Sexes:
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Tackling problems: Women tend to be intuitive global thinkers.They take lots of information from many sources and tend to think of many problems at once.Whereas many times a man will tackle one problem at a time.
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Emotional: Women are much more emotional than men. They live, eat, sleep, love and work all around their emotional side.Their hormonal makeup is completely different from a man. When women makes important decisions their emotions tend to become involved where a man tends to use a more level headed logical straight down the line approach.
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Handling pain and sad emotions: When a woman is upset she generally has a strong desire to call family, friends, sharing her pain with others while a man tends to retreat to his den and withdraw. Men be aware that;
'Some times all a woman needs is for a shoulder to cry on while she pours out her heart'.
Women when upset often feel much better by just talking through their pain. As she cries upon your shoulder while confiding in you realise that sometimes a woman just needs you to listen and not offer solutions. A woman feels better from simply her man comforting her while giving her his full attention with few words.Often if a woman wants advice she will reach out and ask for it.
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Need to feel number one: A woman needs to feel number one in her man's eyes. A woman is aware that man by nature has a 'wandering eye', especially when a beautiful woman walks by, therefore it is important for her to know that in your eyes she is the most beautiful woman of all. Sometimes with so many beautiful women in the world, some women become insecure, feeling the need to compete constantly, unsatisfied with her body and shape if it doesn't meet the ideal form. The media constantly throws images of thinness and unrealistic visions at women which we tend to absorb. While a man is not responsible for a woman's esteem a man we love can 'break' our 'build' our esteem even further.
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Sex : Women need lots of attention, closeness, touching at times with no sex involved. If you only approach your woman and touch her when you want sex, she will become resentful and sometimes even feel like a prostitute, especially if an argument has not been resolved.
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Talking: We all have heard the expression that men are "headliners", and women are "fine print". Women are said to talk on the average 25,000 words a day, and men 5,000 words. Women were born to express themselves, and with an added emotional makeup, it explains why we talk problems over with friends and family. We have that extra need to discuss the aspects of out life, important issues with others.There is a need at times to get things off our chest seeking other's opinions, offloading our fears and hurts.
'I like women. I don't understand them, but I like them'
Sean Connery
How to approach a woman:
1. Walk with her,don't try to rule her.
2. Offer your support, be a haven she can come to when she is in need, without fear of lectures or disinterest on your side.
3. Don't ridicule her behind her back. I never understand men who do this.
4. Listen, listen, when she is hurting. Resist the urge to offer advice unless she asks.
5. Give her compliments, make her feel good about herself, and mean it.
6. Walk with her, not ahead of her.
7. Never take her for granted, don't let familiarity seep in.
8. Show your joy in spending time with her. A woman needs to feel appreciated.
9. Be honest with her. A woman never forgets.
10. Be her greatest supporter. Be someone she knows that she can always count on.
11. If you have done something to hurt her, even if you didn't mean to, tell her you are sorry.
12. If anger gets the better of you walk away and take time to cool down, or you might say something you will regret, and she will remember.
13. You don't have to try to "fix" everything. Men are 'fixers', but women don't want you to fix everything.
14. Kiss her goodbye and be happy to see her.
15. Understand her need to share herself with her friends. It's not that you aren't enough.
16. Show her she can count on you to get things done when you say you will.
.17. Back her up 100 percent!
18. Don't ignore her to gain her attention.That just infuriates her.
19. Include her in your dreams tell her about them. A woman feels part of you when you share your life even more with her.
20. If you treat her the way she deserves to be treated, she in turn will give back to you 100 fold. A happy caring guy makes a happy caring woman.
21. Don't compare her to other women. She is unique.
Despite all the female liberation movement, you may be surprised to learn that women actually still enjoy to be treated like women, and they still appreciate the gentlemanly things men do sometimes.
WOMEN DONT JUST GO FOR LOOKS..
Women look for humour, they love confidence in a guy.
A guy with average looks, if he has a fantastic personality, can be incredibly sexy to her.
A great looking guy with massive ego problems we would rather forget. Not for a long term relationship anyway. Some girls go for guys like this, but normally the more shallow type of girls.
Physical looks can get a lady’s initial interest, but it isn’t what builds attraction.
SO YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW WHAT A WOMAN WANTS?
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Simply ask her what she wants and she will most likely tell you. No two women are the same, thank god, and what may work for one woman may not necessarily be an other's cup of tea. Communication is simply the best way to learn. Keep the channels between the two of you open. Be kind, loving and understanding. Then you will truly discover 'What A Woman Wants'
© Deb Murray 2009
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lol thanks a lot Benson thanks for your comment :)
thats goodf.i like that
Great Hub, thanks
Love and peace
Tony
thanks a lot Tony.xx
thanks hisham80 nice ti see men reading my hub
I especially like the part, "Things a woman will appreciate from you." Those were tips I'm going to have to remember. Thanks for the great advice. I can't wait to try it all out :)
Hi blondepoet,
This was great! I agree 100% with all of it. I hope all the men out there are listening :)
Thanks for sharing!
Good Hub! Thanks!
Thanks again Trish I hope they are listening too it's all so simple really.
Thanks Tom
Thanks Benjimester I can tell you more,when I figure it out myself I will give you a whistle haaa
Nice hub, thanks for ideas
Thanks Roshan :)
Hmmm...what a lecture? I must admit i learn a lot from your point of view. It answers a delima why i'm madly attracted to women because of diffrences.
Haha yes there is a lot to think about.Poor men
This is some very good advice...and true. What I think most guys don't get is that a little kindness goes an awfully long way. And what harm does it do you, to tell her she's beautiful, that you think of her, that you love her, or to surprise her with an unexpected card? These little actions are worth a million bucks.
I think all guys should read this. They might learn something. Nice work.
P.S. I am SHOCKED to see that you were secretly photographing us in your boudoir! And then to publish the picture!
Hey Chris,you are an angel for such a nice comment.Yes us women thrive on little signs of appreciaiton.Haha you saw me snapping your pic,damn it,I knew I would be caught out sooner or later.I am holding the bathroom pics for another day.By public request I am writing at the moment the sexiest men on Hubpages as my sequel.
So make sure you come and check it out, I wont use your nude photos I promise haha.
P.S The umm...cough..agency I mentioned shhh...believe you need to stay indoors tonight...cant say much more.Will meet you at the Sistine Chapel nine hours,north east.Til then.
Good sound advice. I wish I would have known these when I was 21, I had to learn them all the hard way and still it can be a challenge. But I cherish the one I love and worship her and listen, and listen, and listen. LOL
You are so sweet C.C Riter to have read so many of my stories.You sound like you have what she wants down pat. Good on you.
Excellent Hub with the added treat of great quotes on women. Very heartfelt and written as if from personal experiences especially about the propensity of men to look at beautiful women while in your company. Security in knowing that a man is truly in love with you will hinder some of the sadness if he looks at another woman. If he is truly in love with you, he will surely know that you do not like for him to share his attention and will not even take a glance.
Blonde, it took me a loooong time to learn that one's wife does not want her man's opinion or advice. She only wants him to shutup and listen to whatever she has to say, and pay attention. If a man can do that one thing he will have a successful marriage, or relationship. Luckily I am hard of hearing. LOL
Hi Lindagoffigan thanks so much for your great comment I agree totally with what you just said, thanks again
C.C Riter you are truly a gem. Haha I like that 'Luckily I am hard of hearing', that is the best quote for today. Thanks for stopping by here.
The best advice offered here is to "simply ask". All women (like men) are individuals. I, for example, have many traits usually associated with men. ("not being emotional" and "not wanting/needing any shoulders to cry on"). Also, I don't happen to want to be Number 1 in a guy's eyes. In my case, I always wanted my children to be Number 1 in their father's eyes. I was happy with being Number 2 and expected him to be as well.
What I, as a woman, want is for people to realize that I am individual; and because I am, there's a really good chance any assumptions about me are wrong. :)
Hi Lisa yes I agree with you.It all comes down to communication as we are all different than each other.That also leaves the pathway open to getting to know you and what you are about.Thankyou so much for stopping by your comment has great advice for others
Hi,blondepoet. nice hub. How simple are the points, you illustrate. I don't think it is that hard for men to follow. These are so minor yet major things, how do you count all them.
Hi Amelie thanks so much for your comments.I think communication is the key.Some guys just have to learn to talk more lol.
Hi blondepoet,
Thanks for this hub. I mean I could do with some advice on what women really want, even though I have been married for an year now ;). I guess one learns and figures along the way!
On second thoughts, it would help to get the powers of Mel Gibson, a la "What Women Want"!!!
Great post blondepoet!! I have been married for almost 15 years and my husband says that he still doesn't understand women :)). In response, I say that I still don't understand guys. :))
You have some very good points in your article especially:
Offer your support, be a haven she can come to when she is in need, without fear of lectures or disinterest on your side. May I also add , without taking it personally if she has a problem.
don't let familiarity seep in
Understand her need to share herself with her friends. It's not that you arent enough.
Hi SidSingh wow a year, a newly-wed, well I hope it goes well for you,I really do. Haha Mel Gibson,I bet there is many a man who wants to try out what he was able to do in that movie.
Hi Heartnote,15 years wow you are going great.Yes it is very true what you say about familiarity.When you let that seep in you begin to take each other for granted, you stop showing your appreciation for each other which has a big effect on the relationship.Thankyou for your valuable comments on this subject.
What can I say, Blondepoet?
I'll save your tips in my personal file and try them randomly one or two at a time. They say, never try and figure out a woman, it will eventually drive you crazy!
So we have to listen, listen and not try and offer advice, huh? I have always been a fixer, those Engineering types you know, we can fix anything which is not completely right, it does not even have to be broken. I have often been told by women that they do not want to counsel with me, as I always try and fix things or give advice. Now, I understand, I guess, kind of understand. So, what do I do? Say, "Ya, no, uuhm, yes, cool, mmm." Then give her a hug? You have to help me out here, because I am just so different, when it comes to that. What does she expect me to do with the information?
Men are different, that is for sure:
This was my letter to Abby some months ago.
"Dear Abby, I really don't know what to do, can you help? My girlfriend has been acting strange lately, she gets calls and will not answer them when I am close. She also comes home from work in the early ours of the morning, saying she has deadlines to meet. So, yesterday at 2:00 AM in the morning I was hiding in the garage behind my motorcycle, as she drove into the garage. She opened the car door, opened her handbag took out her bra, put it back on, took out her underwear, slipped that back on and then proceeded to sneak back into the house.
While all this was happening, me hiding behind my motorcycle, I noticed a hairline crack in the frame. What do I do now, replace the frame, or do you think the crack can be welded as a safe repair???
Look forward to your advice.
John"
Haha Jellrug haha. Excuse me while I just stoppppp laughingggggg.Omg that has to be the most amusing,profund, well written comment I have encountered in my wee blonde days.
Oh Jellyrug, you are a extroidinary male.Well I can only suggest that when you feel the words rising in your throat while she is crying on your shoulder,either reach a little further to grab your coke on the coffee table.Gurgle for a few minutes,or even better insert an appetising snack,into the cavaties of thy mouth and chew.With all this yummy flavoursome food in your mouth, it benefits here in two ways.
Firstly we all know it is hard to talk with something in your mouth,therefore of real benefit here.
Secondly if you pick something so mighty flavoursome you are indeed happy to remain silent,resulting in two parties totally getting what they need.T-bone steaks tend to come in the most useful if there is one handy, especially if one does not have a great deal of teeth,as it does take some time chomping to get to the bone inside hahah.
What advice has Abbey given you on the other ummm matter involving the crack haha that is a classic.Seriously you sound like a really fun light hearted guy,and for you to express yourself in such a remarkable fashion,I think you already possess many of the qualities of 'what a woman wants'. Please let me know how my advice goes on the above.
One last note try not to eat food items with seeds,it is pretty hard to spit them out while holding your lady,mainly olives and stone fruit.
LOL. ROFL.
Well, let me think here for a little, I have scanned through the expert advice again and don't see too much about kissing?
See, I am a good kisser, and the steaks and food items may just spoil a good chance to get a kiss in.
So, how about this?
When a woman talks and she just wants me to listen, she does not ask advice, can I nod my head, touch her now and then and count the words? Then how many words do I have to wait for, before I can start kissing. Surely not the 25,000 you mentioned? Engineers are good with math, so no need for a whole number, if it's a decimal, I can work with that too. I can figure out how many letters will be in the word and start the kiss somewhere inside the word.
For example, when she says: "....... and when she walks through the office with her blonde curls and the mini skirt, even the boss looks up from his desk. I hate her, absolutely hate her, she is a sl" KISS KISS KISS.
That calculates to exactly 32,5 words and then three kisses.
You think perhaps I am making this too complicated and there is no magic number? After all, women are the most complicated beings around.
Have to run, there is a new Yoga class specially for stretching my lips, not far from here. Don't want to be late.
Blonde Poet, humor aside, I did enjoy your hub though and take note of the many good points.
Final advice: Stay away from those old fiddles, the younger ones can reach much higher notes.
Haha Jellyrug you have completely lost me here. For a start maths is most certainly not my best subject. I should have added a definition of 'DizzyBlonde' in my blonde story, as that is the best way to describe myself at the moment. My head is whirling in circles,haha. My advice here without having to add up or subtract here, is when the talking seems to subside, count one,two three, then dive in for the kiss, assuming you have finished eating, from the previous tip I last gave you. Yes,good kissing skills is a plus here.That is a big yes for what woman want, I have had some piranhas in my experience so big thumbs up on that one.
I am scratching my head on your final advice comment can you please interpret that one for me.Thanks Jellyrug.
He's yalking about me! Ha, ha, hee, hee old fiddle indeed I can hit those hi notes still
C.C Writer ROFL, is that what he means.Haha I get it now it just clicked from what you said. I bet you can still hit those high notes indeed, I mean with 5 gates in your yard for access to five woman in your neighbourhood,I bet your notes go way higher than a soprano.
hahahahaha...this article is really true I could say. Thanks for this informative article, at least men will learn something about it with their girls as well.
Hi shezz3085 lol. Thanks so much for stopping by.It's great to see such happy bubbly peope, they brighten my day.
Hey Blondepoet! This hub should be required reading for every male aged -- I dunno -- 12 and up. At least for any man contemplating being in a relationship with a woman or getting married. Probably not a bad idea for men wishing to get along with their mothers and sisters and other non-romantic women in heir lives, either!
Bravo.
great advice for all the men out there and so accurate too - the value of which should not be underestimated either...thanks\...cheers
Aww Mighty Mom I appreciate that very much.A woman is not that complicated as one makes out.If they are truly appreciated,truly loved without demands,feel as they are number one in their partners life,they thrive like a rose opening its beautiful buds beneath the summer sky.Thanks for your encouraging words...you are a beautiful gem.
Ajcor I also thankyou for your comments here, I love your profile picture.That little dog is the cutest of cutest.You guys have brightened my day.
great hub-i do agree every woman is different,what is ok for one woman will offend the next--have a bless day
Thankyou very much fyxer.Lol yes we are all different in certain areas.Thank goodness for that,it keeps the world from being boring.
Great hub,I completely agree women are better in expressing themselves than man.
Great hub,I completely agree women are better in expressing themselves than man.
Thankyou so much karmadir,yes we certainly are lol.
Well, here is one for the women.
He said : "I don't know why you wear a bra; you've got nothing to put in it!" She said. "You wear pants don't you?!"
He said : "Shall we try swapping positions tonight?" She said. "That's a good idea -- you stand by the ironing board while I sit on the sofa and fart!"
He said. "What have you been doing with all the grocery money I gave you?" She said. "Turn sideways and look in the mirror you fat bastard!"
He said: "Why don't you tell me when you have an orgasm?" She said "I would but you're never there,"
Q. Why don't women blink during foreplay? A. They don't have time
Q. How many men does it take to change a roll of toilet paper? A. We don't know; it has never happened.
Q. Why is it difficult to find men who are sensitive, caring and good-looking? A. They already have boyfriends.
Q. What do you call a woman who knows where her husband is every night? A. A widow.
Q. Why are married women heavier than single women? A. Single women come home, see what's in the fridge and go to bed. Married women come home, see what's in bed and go to the fridge.
Man says to God:"God, why did you make woman so beautiful?" God says: "So you would love her."The man says, "But, God, why did you make her so dumb?" God says: "So she would love you."
hahaha Jellyrug,wow,what a selection of awesome jokes.I always forget them when I go to tell them but now I have a page I can refer to.Thanks heaps for giving me some real laughs here.
Lots of fun among very important tips! Fantastic hub blondpoet!
Aww thanks compu-smart for coming by and your sweet comment. You are so right. I have an assortment of topics much like a large Cadbury box of chocolates lol
Beautiful article. It is so very true. I know a few men I should be passing this onto. Thank you for putting all this information into one place.
Thank-you so much SoulaBee for coming by. We as women can be so complicated at times, but yes so simple as well. I think we become complicated when we are not happy lol
This is a good idea
Lol thanks linjingjing thanks for coming by
Every woman need two things
1. Acknowledgement
2. Care
Give these & she'll b yours..
Hi Numan thanks so much for coming by to read my story here.Yes you are so right. Very,very important to us women. :)
Wah??? Did you say something...Sorry the Hockey game was on.
Jajajajajajajaaj.
Every woman need two things according to Numan above
1. Acknowledgement
2. Care
Give these & she'll b yours..
Haha you must have just read that!!!!
A hockey game aghhhh, i lost out over to a hockey game ohhh Pest I am shattered,so shattered.I will return after I go get a tissue
This is excellent!!! Great advice for all men out there!!! I know a lot of men that only think about their needs and wants, and tend to ignore the fact that women have their own needs and wants. I know so many men who would really benefit from reading this!
Wow, now that I read this hub, I really understand women. Now I'll never say, do, or think the wrong thing again. And I'll live happily ever after. Thanks, Blonde!
Lol! @ Tom!
Sorry guys I took a few minutes to get back my tummy was growling like a tiger and I went to cook some mushrooms for my breakfast, no, not the magic variety, but ohh they are so good.
Good morning Anna, aww thankyou so much.We as women are really not that hard to keep happy. I have always been a bit strange in my wants from a man. I honestly would prefer instead of a man giving me flowers, I would much prefer he give me half a kilo of prawns.
I have told men this and they think I am nuts. When I am eating a prawn Anna I go straight to heaven's door lol. I hope you are conserving your energies for our upcoming trip, I must tell there Pest there are three women coming to lodge with him in his panoramic headquarters
Good morning Tom you are looking lovely this morning I do say. Aww you are too much, you don't know how delighted I am to hear that your marriage will soar to new heights with my humble words here. Yes err, my additional advice for you is just work on a paragraph here at a time for let's say a week period, as your manly understanding peaks to new heights. I hope you read my previous comment to Anna there is a lot of deep insight there. I should have added this one to my story.This point only applies to woman who like crabs.
Pest,jajajaja you two are so naughty having a wee little manly giggle, taking away the mastery and impact my knowledge creates on this page to weary travellers looking to find their way home. You just wait til I come grace your ranch with my presence in a few months.You will not want me to leave, as you witness my many life skills in the flesh.You will be overwhelmed I dare say
Now you are making me hungry!!! I like flowers, but would much prefer something that requires a little thought, and something the man knows that I really love. Like, instead of flowers, a couple of nice, gourmet coffees! I love coffee!
Hahha Anna you are like a beautiful wild flower, that reaches its soft petals to the morning sun. See men another woman agrees with me. Flowers yes they are lovely and appreciated, but they soon wither.Give a woman something that satisfies her most deepest inner cravings like prawns for me and gourmet coffee for Anna and you are on a winning roll
Can you guys write a little slower? I'm having trouble keeping up...
Hahah Tom sure any .....................................................................................................................................thing.............................................................................................for ..........................................................you.................................................myyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.............................................sweet................................................................cherrie...........................................is that slow enough eh
Holy Moses Tom did you see that my words went right across the page, that is like a magic trick,it is a sign from above...(blonde is scratching her head).....how I did that....mmmm
"Pest,jajajaja you two are so naughty having a wee little manly giggle, taking away the mastery and impact my knowledge creates on this page to weary travellers looking to find their way home. You just wait til I come grace your ranch with my presence in a few months.You will not want me to leave, as you witness my many life skills in the flesh.You will be overwhelmed I dare say"
You actually commenting to me is overwhelming! I dont git a lot of attentions here at the ranch.
Always plenty of praise for you little apple-cake. I am singing this song on my karaoke machine. Here I will serenade you:
Man it's a hot one
Like seven inches from the midday sun
I hear you whisper and the words melt everyone
But you stay so cool
My munequita, my Spanish Harlem Mona Lisa
Your my reason for reason
The step in my groove
And if you say this life ain't good enough
I would give my world to lift you up
I could change my life to better suit your mood
Women need 3 things, food, water, and compliments. End of discussion.
And an occasional pair of shoes.
usually it seems soo difficult to understand what a moman wants... but everything is quite easy - they want love, attention and some care!! =))
you are a gifted "blonde"
Haha James no no no you got it all wrong here
Hi Gin that is absolutley true
Hi Wudie thankyou so much...
Great hub BP :)
Btw, the quotation : "Man forget but never forgive.......... has been cited twice in the hub. Thought would let you know
Oh thanks heaps for telling me Abhishek87 I never picked up on that
Fantastic. It is 100% True.Whether it is Australia or India, no difference in woman need.
Thankyou so much niranjani. Yes we have the same desire to be loved and appreciated no matter who we are. :)
I couldn't agree more. Everything you said is right on point!!! Wonderful Hub!!
Awww thanks jjrubio you are a little gem. Wow HP looks so different what is going on here?
Ok I am coming over now.
Hey BP, we think that pkoson is using a bot or something as he's been putting that same line on every hub. Two on mine and a few on CC's but we've added him (can't be a her no women would be so asinine) onto The Hubbers Doggy Doo List for schmucks and tossers like him
Oh thanks so much for telling me Cindy I was over there thinking I can't remember reading their hubs. Damn you saved me in the nick of time. There are no pics over there I thought it was strange.You are a lifesaver.Don't forget I am coming to Japan next time lol.I added me hippy picture too haha
Yeah, there is something creepy about this pkoson character. jamie even wrote a whole hub about him and his creepiness. Have you added any of your stalkers or abusive email senders to the List. someone said you'd also had a few tossers causing you strife?
Brava, BP! great article and excellent advice. Ought to be tattooed on the inside of some men's eyelids!
Oh yes Cindy I certainly have.What list do I add them too.Hell their are some fruitcakes.You should see some of the emails I am getting too,omg.
Hi Silver Freak haha yes I like that idea. I had my eye-liner tatooed on, so I can't see there would be any hiccups with that idea. Oh I like it.
Hello Blondepoet. This is a very useful hub.
My pleasure earnest but being a fellow Aussie I bet you knew all this beforehand.LMAO
I qam a bit bias, of course, but all that you write tugs at my heart...!!! ALl of it.
Awwww thanks Pest that means a lot..(hugsx0x0x)
Cool Hub! As a Woman the first thing I look for is Security. Well then, I am a Taurian.
Those are some great advice to the geeks and losers out there who wants to impress a lady. ;) BTW, Need an opinion on the Extreme hub makeover! Please!
Hi Anamika S thankyou so much for coming by.Yes I agree with you, security is a big thing.
Hey Mayhmong what is the extreme hub makeover.Sure. When. How. Where. You know I will be there in a flash.
WoW - I thoroughly enjoyed reading your wonderful hub. Thank you!!!
Thanks heaps Shil1978 :)
Such a wonderful hub. Very informative.
I am really moved especially by your style of narrating those tips. Keep the good work.
I am really moved especially by your style of narrating those tips. Keep the good work.
JPS0138 thanks so much for taking the time to read so many of my hubs I will return the favour to you. (Hugs)
Hi shamelabboush, thanks a million for your wonderful praise
Awesome, awesome hub! Very true.
Hey Raven King thanks a million for all your support will return the favour to you.x0x0x0x0xx
I just love it the way you shower your fans with attention. Do you garden?
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Oh thankyou Raven King, you know it comes naturally as I love people.When people see my exterior they assume I am a snob but far from it. This is one of my sayings I wrote awhile ago
'Life is like a garden you reap what you sow, if you plant hate you live in weeds, if you plant love, you live in honour.'
'Character,a beautiful spirit are more important in a person than their looks'
Thsnks so much for all your kind words I really amx0x0xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx0x0x0x0x0x0x0xx0
THanks paulkoson :)
Why would a woman want to be number one? Men by nature are warriors and hunter/gatherers...too much on our minds to have a woman take that number one spot. Women are usually down around 2nd or 4th spot! Being number one does not feel appropriate; that sort of neediness is usually why women end up second or even fifth on a mans' list of priorities. In my opinion, it is entirely unreasonable to put a woman as a man's number one priority. How can a man take care of a woman's emotional needs and desires for security when the bills aren't paid, or there is no employment or has the grass been cut; or the car taken for maintenance; then with all of that what about our needs as men?
Women are too complicated. None the less, I found this Hub on womens' needs informative.
Your fan, BlondePoet,
Daniel.
Hi daniel, LMAO you have some great points there. I didn't mean for her to be in the number one spot between the man and herself, but to feel in her man's eyes she is number one over any other competition. I realise too men have needs that are equally important but I guess that calls for another hub.Thanks for dropping by.
LMAO I can teach you some tips BC.I have heaps up my ..errr.. sleeve
What a woman wants...What a woman wants....anybody ever ask me what I want?????? Oh.....I guess I am that transparent.....hmmmmm.
here goes, "R.Blue what do you want". BP is very considerate loll
Thanks for asking BP....really!! I'd like a nice steak, medium rare...seared on the outside....a caesar salad and a baked potato with real butter and sour cream. Then I'd like to sit and watch the sunset with my rum in hand and listen to some good tunes as I sing along. Then an hour or two with my favorite hubchicks in the jaccuzi followed by 6 or 7 hours of playful sex with the whole lot of you. An Hour or two of sleep and then we'll start all over again......wheeeeeeeee!!!!!
hahahahahahah a man with a simple appetite. I will go rustle up the Chef and the HP crowd. Report back at sun down looool.
This is exactly what i want. No man I have ever met is capable of this though. It is like when you start telling the things you feel or need emotionally, they shut down. They don't understand they think that you are being emotionaly or asking too much of them...anyways...in a perfect world this would be great :)
Hi ratcliffe07 oh I couldn't agree more.I have had my fill of this too.So many times when I have become emotional I have become tired of hearing ,"Oh stop your crying", or just them walking away not bothering to hear what I have to say,grrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Oh yes wouldn't it be lovely....sigh.
Yes dear...talk to me....I have a soft shoulder.
As long as it is only the shoulder, Blue!
LMAO Blue and Cindy. You are on. One day I am going to get on Skype and waffle on and cry and whatnot for half hour, and you have to practise the rule here, you not allowed to say anything in the meantime. How will I know though that you haven't gone for a beer while I am unloading.??? You must admit that is a fine point.
I have the fine art of saying Uh huh every couple of minutes down to a science.....years of practice....really great listener.
If it weren't the shoulder cindy...then it would be hard.
LMAO Blue I liked that pun, I got it straight away, not bad for me so early in the morning.
Bravo BP....sometimes you have a mind like a steel trap......lots of holes, but if one of those spikes gets ya....you're got.
Hahaha you are right I am not too proud to admit it.
A great Hub to read if you wanna know about woman, what she wants and what she thinks. i really enjoyed reading it. I don't have girlfriend but the day I have one, I am sure this Hub will help me know and understand her better. Thanks for the Hub and yes once again; Please improve the formatting and alignment of the contents of your Hub. Improve the content and your readers will enjoy your Hub even more. Please do not take it negatively, it is for your good!
How do I improve the formatting PB, as in what way?
Just improved the formatting PB, it's heaps better.
You can improve the formatting by the use of proper paragraph, indentation, bullets etc in the text capsule. Make sure the space between two para is just one line gap. And if you know HTML then you can make your capsule look a bit more better.
I wish I knew how to use those buttons PB, will have to keep practising I guess thanks for your help.
Great article -- very well wrtten, easily understood and right on! Nicely done as always!
Formatting schmormatting...I just like the content and the writer.
Hi AP thankyou so much, you know how to make a girl feel good in the wee hours of the morning x0x
LMAO RB I would never make a Web Designer that is for sure. You are so sweet xox
Another great Hub! Me? I'm sitting this one out. God wanted me to, or I wouldn't've been born xxy. G|M
Hi Varun so very true what you say. Understanding yes that is the key
Hey GM great comment there LMAO. Your support has meant heaps to me.x0x0x0x
"Eve was not taken out of Adam's head to top him, neither out of his feet to be trampled on by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected by him, and near his heart to be loved by him" - Every man needs to read this hub of yours. Just like reading the manual of a fragile machine before getting 'involved' with it they need to be educated about it ... and who can be more beautiful and fragile then the most beautiful of God's creation - Women :D.
Oh Nazishnasim I love that statement about Adam and Eve I have never heard that before, that is just so well said. Truly beautiful. (hugs)
I found myself nodding my head the entire time I was reading your article! I'm going to put a link to this on my husband's wall on Facebook! Haha! :D
Oh wow Susan that is fantastic you were nodding your head, that is a huge indication I said something right LMAO. Oh I am truly honoured for the link, yes men really need to know these things, it is just getting them to listen that is sometimes hard.
Or they listen, but it's like you're speaking Greek or some alien language to them. :P Oh well, Mars and Venus. :P
To be fair though, my husband is pretty wonderful. Hehe. :D
Aww you are so lucky Susan, it sound like you have a complete gem. Hang on to him, great ones are so hard to find (hugs)
Oh, I do have a gem, and I didn't even have to dig deep to find him; he pushed his way out of the ground and found me! Hehe. :D Thanks, Deb. :)
Awwwwww Susan to hear that, living in a world where marriage is falling apart like the drop of a hat, is so refreshing. That truly makes my heart shine. xoxoxox
But if Adam had the balls to say no to the apple, we would not be having frigging period pains and need drugs for childbirth!
Oh Cindy too darn right, what did he have to do that for, grrrrrr, look what we have to endure all because of this. All hell breaks loose when you don't listen to some simple straight forward rules.
Yeah I agree, Eve only made a small suggestion and bloody Adam grabbed that apple and took a big bloody bite!
ROFL CIndy good morning to you. I like that let's blame it all on Adam. Hahaha.
I want to be jealous at times, you got to give me a challenge. You also should know when to hold and know when to fold. Great Hub BP, I will forward all appicants that I rec. to you for approval. Should have some arriving soon.
dori
Oh fortunerep you are a darling, I just love it when you come by....(hugs)xo
Blondepoet,
Lots said in this one. Notes taken.
Many thoughts makes a muddled mind. So, in lieu of some rant, I'll file some of what I learned and mix it with some of what I experienced and write a hub of my own.
Good writing though! Keep it up.
Thanks Enigmatic for coming by. I guess it is all rather simple really to some of us, but there are always those who need a A to Z. :)
very good hub for men to know women better .Thank you.
Thanks a million andromida I certainly hope so :)
This is brilliant!! Should be a required course!! LOL
We have the memory of elephants!!
Thanks so much Jodi I agree 100%, men always say women are hard to figure out, but we are very easily read, if they are aware of our composition. We are like amplified extensions of our men, if they put in disinterest and slackness, they get a real slack woman, yet if they put in some understanding, extra loving and care, they get a very happy woman who makes their life so much easier lol.
Well if the men dont start treating us better after those words so nicely delivered, we have no hope......
I like it when a woman speaks out for all of us....... we all have pretty much the same needs it seems...... Brenda x
This Hub is evergreen!
I love it! Thanks...
Aww thanks Brenda you are so right. Is it too hard to ask for a man to go out of his way a little to make us feel good?
Hi TM thankyou so much I am so glad you stopped by to have a read....:)
So true, BP!! lol You have nailed it! Thank you. : )
Lol Jodie great women think alike. :)
I think that women are the broad directional dictaitors.
...What the hell does that mean...Idont know I confused my self. I think what I ment was that wome catagorize things in to good or bad They want they do not want and they move towards hat they want no matter what in the end. But I don't think they even really need a good reason to catagorize it its all the vibe they get.
I make no sense...I am a guy that much is obvious.
Congradulations on your book!
P.S. I Love Blondes it's like a fly seeing a light I just go there.
I love the Sean Conerey quote.
Hi there Hope thanks for brightnening up my page in these early hours on a Sunday morning. Thanks heaps for the good wishes too. :)
Hello blondepoet, I appreciate this writing for all my varied, diversified experiences of my own. #4 in "how to please" as well as #4 & #10 in "how to approach" especially jumped at me. If a woman feels promoted by her man, she will feel special, loved.
peace to you
So very true GL, if we are treated right by a man we thrive, it really is so simple. Thanks a million for leaving a wonderful comment :)
Well, as usual - ten billion people (okay maybe a little fewer than that) have already been here singing your praises. Don't blame them and I second most of their notions! You're awesome BP! Thanks for the funny, true, and informative guide. My other half is still learning that a woman doesn't always want a logical solution - she often just wants a willing ear. :)
Aww thanks Roobee you know the way to make me go all cooey ROFL. A flattering tongue I have always said, "will get you everywhere lol. Yes men really need to learn that one, simply to listen, as half the time after a woman is crying and letting it all out on his shoulder, she will simply feel better that he has taken the time to listen and to hold her. (hugs) So true hey Roobee?
Excellent post! Condensing and downloading into brain..........
See if you enjoy these: http://hubpages.com/hub/Beauty-Appeared-Again-And- and http://hubpages.com/hub/Beauty-Appreciation-Or-Lus
Thanks christian will check out those links. Cheers!!
Hey blondepoet!
Great advice on what a woman wants!
Take Care!
Oh hi my-success-guru you are looking mighty fine this morning. So where are you taking me on the weekend?? xo
As I read through your very thorough list of what a woman wants I looked back on the terrible mistakes I have made. Only recently did I start to learn what was going wrong in my marriage. Come to find out it was me. From that day to this I have striven to be more of the man my woman wants me to be, yet at the same time still being me. Great tips for every man to listen to.
Thanks so much Wesley for your great comments, oh did you save your marriage or did it end?
I enjoyed reading this hub and hopefully will endeavour to practices the tips...
Hiya Barry I bet you will not have to try hard, you seem to be the type of guy who has it pretty much down pat.!!!! :) :)
well, as I am in Iraq there is not much I can do. I hold on to the belief that it can be saved though. In my opinion I am going to give it everything I have because if I didn't what kinda guy would I be? Besides my wife is a wonderful person who deserves only the very best from me.
Oh Wesley what a beautiful comment, your wife is extremely lucky to have a guy like you. (hugs)
Believe it or not, I do do a lot of these things. But see, my problem is - I currently don't have a woman. It's probably a confidence thing like you've mentioned. (And I'm ok with that for now cause I don't have a lot of time - it's all being spent here and writing limericks! lol)
Awww Marco you are too nice to be alone, however your limmericks are number one. Gee that is something we both share as I do not have a woman also ROFL. I bet you would ake a great catch. (hugs)
Aw thanks BP :)
You are most welcome marco it is so very true (hugs)
Good hubbbbb.
Thanks so much Gilbert :) :)
It is great to get to see what women want through your eyes. Many of the things I was already aware of, at least partially, but to have them verified is very rewarding. Thank you for your insight!
If you would like I could give you some personal insight into what a man wants. You might be suprised. :)
Yes sure Logic that would be hunky dory. Bring it on I say should be very interesting. I know it would not be what women expect to hear. We women are a funny bunch very akin to a bunch of grapes. Some of us are sour and some are very sweet, some are simple and some are complicated. Thanks so much for coming by. xox
A Beautiful glance into your comprehension. Thanks for the teasing-lift of the veil of mystery!
Hiya Earthscribe thanks so much for coming by. Lol, women can certainly appear to be mysterious, we are pretty simple creatures deep down, just need good ole TLC :)
Good to know, this is a very informative hub.
Thanks heaps Stephen have a great day :) :)
great read...thanks for all the advice, I really like number 6.
Good job,my wife was even proud to see me read this one to her.
Hi rdfrank67 thankyou so much for coming by. Have a great day :)
Thanks heaps chance wilson wow your wife liked it too. Lol shows us women think alike :)
Quite Interesting not to omit informative.
Single due to tragedy, it was a great loss. We "got" one another, probably an irreplaceable loss.
She was wise enough to speak to me in simple terms and tell me what she wanted or needed at the moment what it was arose.
I think women should simplify the process because men are not very good at guessing or reading between the lines. That would be true for me at any rate.
So here's what guys want, Titties and Beer,
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ylRplLnU84&feature
FLMAO.....
Thanks 50 Caliber for your imput here lol. Yes if men and women could just relate their needs to each other in a simple loving way what wonders it would do :)
Excellent article. Thanks very much for sharing this information.
So that thing about "I like women - I don't understand them but I like them" I would like to say that about men. It needs to be said. I know they can be thoughtless pigs but still, Men - I like them. I think women need to accept men as very flawed and men all the same.
Hi Steve thanks a million
Hey Lisa LMAO thanks so much for expressing your opinions greatly appreciated
What, you mean its not about chocolate?
LMAO knell63 oh hell yes chocolate helps :)
HEY BLONDE POET!
great hub
i followed it and i became a teddy bear to my girl-just there,dumb and deaf for her to lean on.
ever since i pretend to be a teddy bear she likes me a lot.
Hahaha Tinyteddy love the attitude. Wish there were more teddys in the word
Excellent Job...Superb ! being a girl i relate to each n every point !!
Hiya sexeducationnow oh that is bonza for another woman to agree. Cheers to us gals. :)
A well written hub. I wish men can understand us better.
I wish so too Bhawna, sigh maybe some day.
nice hub.
I also wrote something related to women and their men.
Please check.
Thanks for coming by Superior will check out yours for sure :)
Two thumbs up, as usual!
Oh thanks Chaotic you sure you won't go for three LMAO?
I bet you are secretly some sort of therapist or counselor in disguise as a nurse / poet aspiring to be an online writer, all the while using us a guinea pigs to observe our deviant behavior. I am right huh?
LOL
Did you take any of the pictures in this essay? I like the change to the monochromatic color (violet) giving the whole article that feel of black and white - it somehow gives an air of credibility when pages use select colors. Like how a movie is more dramatic in black and white...
What's your counseling fee, really...
Haha Blake I am a little of everything I think. Counselor in sex and love affairs. Nurse, eye-brow waxer, blond representative, hair cutter, tiddly streaker LMAO. I like to be versatile. :)
Again and Again,you got me going...Tips 12.(I will practice from now but i just hope she don't misunderstand my walking away from her),perhaps more explanations and that is just communications.
Great hub!!!
Hey there Ross thanks again for stopping by, great to see you. What a nice guy coming by to see what your lady wants. :)
Nice hub...Thnx for sharing..
Thanks heaps rebu. :)
Excellent points, and honest. I'm not used to that. Another aspect, if children are involved, both should be as well. Don't let the kids grow up, then not remember who you're with. They may leave as well, if you become strangers during the rearing. It's all about being open and respectful. What you pointed out. Counsel all you want, Nurse Poet.
Awesome !!! thought i will not get to the comment box of much comments you received and i just love this blondepoet you are so so so direct to the point. LOVE ALL THE DETAILS IN HERE. Hooray !!!!
Aww thanks Devlin and you made some great points too. Nurse Poet always has something to say LMAO do not fear. :) :)
Hey there Sweet Choc I am so glad you called by and I receive your praise with a huge smile on my dial. Thank-you very much. :)
Ok. Hi there Blondepoet,
This makes the second time I've read this, and I enjoyed it as much as the first time.
Things going on in my life currently drew me to the title. This in particular struck a chord: 18. Don't ignore her to gain her attention.That just infuriates her.
How true! And then there's this: A guy with average looks, if he has a fantastic personality, can be incredibly sexy to her. And this: Physical looks can get a lady’s initial interest, but it isn’t what builds attraction.
I agree whole-heartedly!
Some of the quotes, for me, were perfect, such as “Women are repeatedly accused of taking things personally. I cannot see any other honest way of taking them.”
Seriously! that is so true.
Enjoyed again!
Oh hi Trish thank-you so much for coming back a second time that means a lot. Oh yes men that give the silent treatment, oh it strikes at the inner chord. It is great to hear from another woman who can relate to some of these messages aimed for men to take note. It applies in my own life so much, personality, trust, humour, generosity,beautiful spirit are what will draw me in much more than a pretty boy face. Thanks again Trish. :)
I would never give you the silent treatment BP. In fact, I usually find it hard to stop chatting with you once I know you are online. =) Blake4d
Aww Blake that is so sweet. You need to get msn or yahoo and we can chat for real. Heaps of fun. :) :)
I have msn arizonabook at hot mail dot com. Where can I reach you darling? Blake4d
Sorry BP thats arizonabooks etc etc.
Blake4d
Great hub BP! Really enjoyed reading it!
Hiya Blake hell I have never heard of arizonbooks. Oh I think I shall just mail you. It is a blonde you are dealing with here LMAO. :)
Thanks a million adrienne I appreciate your warm feedback. :)
Still, I feel like women are a mystery to a huge degree.
Hi thehands yes good point LMAO.
Women are not mistery. In fact, they are readable like a book.
Hi Auf great to hear someone on this planet has worked them out. :)
what a good showing! your hub just couldn't get better. work on that. keep doing more perceptive hubs.
Great hub I linked to it on my newest hub. Thanks great advice.
Why thanks heaps VivekSri I promise I will. :)
Hey there zzron wow thanks for linking me. Have a great day. :)
Jelly Beans
Oh bring them on Brian. You know I adore jelly beans. What a good memory you have.
You can still teach an old dog a few new tricks. Give her what she wants has always been the "first Principle" of getting along with women in any relationship. Thanks for your efforts to help my helpless gender. Cheers.
I recently discovered the truth about the appreciation. My wife and I recently had an argument where appreciation was front and center. Since then, I have tried to show appreciation, though I realize that I have not done as much as I can.
Another great hub!
Hi there sligobay oh I am so glad to teach a few tricks. I bet you are the perfect gentleman too. Have a great day. :)
Hi there gradyp so happy to meet you. I am thrilled you popped by to read my modest hub.
I totally agree with you sex notion. There is nothing wrong with some good (physical) lovin, but sometimes a simple kiss and hug is nice.
Hi Contrice yes totally it is all so simple, yet so many men overlook the simplicity and basic needs a woman has. Thanks so much for popping by.
Hugging and cuddles - awesome. A special kiss is what I need and the reassurance that I am loved - completely. Thank you blondepoet I love reading your hubs.
And I love you coming by acaetnna. You are the bees knees. xo
Right I'm voting this up as 'awesome' BP - it really is a terrific piece of writing because it's so full of advice . . . . for me!
So - when's the book version coming out please and can I have an advance copy signed by you?!!! Please - if you sign it you see I'll learn quicker!
Great hub BP and I'm looking out for another from you.
Oh amorea flattery will get you everywhere. I tell you what not only will I give you the book I will seal the cover with my fushcia lipstick LMAO. Love having you as my fan.
Wow woman!! Impressive and so full of wonderful wisdom...Awesome work!!
Tks heaps Jinny I tried my best. Glad you liked it.
Brilliant.....some interesting points, so if a woman knows who she wants like a saylor knows the sea what signs will she give us, men dont see any of it, a girls gota be clinging to us before we go "i think she fancies me"
Could you do a hub on "if a girl wants you she will"
Sure Peter I can do that. As soon as my inspiration hits me I will roll one out. Thanx so much for coming by. :)
Could you also include "and if she dont want ya she will"
in your next one please bp...
Im speaking as someone who is too picky for he's own good
and i spend an eterinity in the first stages, im sure there is a lot of people much the same, [ blame my first girl ] I got an enzo ferrari for my 18th, wrote it off and cant find another one, and i cant have a skoda, no disrespct to skodas but there are skoda drivers and enzo ferrari drivers.
In short bp i wana walk up to the best looking girls i can find and know if its on or not immediately.
Your help is needed bigtime,
THANKYOU.. guys will love this
Hahaha Peter oh sure I would be happy to oblige. Oh boy I am laughing my guts out here. It is all in the facial expression did you know? Watch a good looking chicks face, if the nostrils turn upwards and the rest of the face is quite blank I would take that as a big no or "what the heck". I will eleborate further. :) :)
sooooooo much research. nice.
This is just typical. You women want the moon on a stick! Why is it that you want men to talk to you, support you, treat you like princesses, lavish attention on you, tell you we love you, etc but all you do in return is ignore us? You reckon you're born communicators, but you're a one way channel that's always on Transmit and never receive. As for men with great looks and big egos - you girls always go for those egotistical big headed pricks every time. Women are in fact more shallow than men - you only have to listen to what most young women talk about these days (Twilight, the latest "hunk" on Lost, Sex in the City, etc etc). So get over yourselves girls - I don't need to, nor want to, understand any more about you.
Thanx heaps youshouldknow nice to meet you :)
Hi johnorton loved your comments I really appreciated you dropping by, you sound like a man who knows a little about women. :)
LMAO ffs, oh your comments gave me a hearty laugh I nearly split my sides. Wow I appreciate your honesty, and I can see where you are coming from. There are a lot of frustrated males out there. Remember once you get on the band wagon it will all fall into place from there. :)
I really enjoyed this hub, I'm now your follower, be gentle :)
I am back again to ask 'Where have you been'? Life is not the same on Hubpages without you! Here is wishing you a wonderful, magical Christmas. Take care special lady.
a great read, thanks for sharing. Sometimes we (men) need to go back to the basics, and remind ourselves to take time to consider things like this.
Hi there Life wow glad to meet you. What a spunk. xx
Woo hoo acatnna I am back. Did you have a great Xmas. What did you get up to my sweet petunia pie. Love ya heaps xox
Hi there Assassin anyone with a name like that has to be my friend xo
excellent. :)
Thanks heaps assassin xo
Great details.=D
Thanks million loanyi cheers
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